That’s right you read it correctly. I’m doing a combination of both movie and music for this week pick of the week. The two-forms of media are very connected and so it’s only natural that they made an appearance in an entry together.
This last Sunday night I had a friend over to watch a movie. This Sunday she brought a selection of movies to watch. She brought three movies to choose from that were all great movies, but I immediately picked “Bridesmaids” out of the bunch. Because it is a movie that I missed out on for quite some time and many people have told me to watch it. So, to avoid more ridicule from the masses I thought that I should add it to the movies I have seen.
It was a great movie and I enjoyed it thoroughly. I didn’t however laugh as much as I thought I would given how much people laughed even mentioning the movie. That is not to say the movie isn’t funny because it is. I look at things a lot differently these days because of my current desires to create things that are humorous as well. So, in a way I’m taking notes on the things that I see to help build my comedic knowledge.
What I did pay more attention to in the movie was the main character as she struggles especially in her love life. There are many similarities between genders even though the movie was more focused on trying to show the female side of love life interactions.
One thing I could totally relate to was her many awkward moments when being single in a group of not single people. Especially when you go to such things as weddings. Yes, weddings are the worst at least in my experience. There is plenty more awkward situations out there for us single people especially the older you get.
Holding strong to who I am as a person and the main reason for why I’m currently single. This at times has been weird for those around me at some level. Truth be told there is a lot about being single that I like obviously since I have stayed that way for a good portion of my life. There has been a message that has been going through my mind over this last week that I cannot ignore. That message is this:
If I thought that being with someone was something I needed to feel complete in life then I would have been with someone long ago. It is not and will never be.
That is not to say I don’t want to find someone to share life with. What it does mean is I rather not mess around with something that does not serve me. I’m an Aries by nature and I’m rather independent in general. I also look for that in someone I could be with as well. That kind of independence is not found with those that cannot stand on their own.
There is so much about relationships that can bog people down. This just isn’t about me however its about standing on my own so someone can stand next me on their own as well.
I want the same things for my partner that I want for everyone else in the world. I want them to live life to the fullest at every moment. I never want to stand in the way of anyone else’s ambitions. I want to support and inspire them as much as possible. To let them be them and let me be me.
It’s true that I have been guilty over the years of holding on to situations that would never serve me well. If Laura wasn’t a prime example of that I don’t know what is. I’m not trying to make this out to be a pity party for myself anymore. I know now that I’m the one that controls whether this part of my life changes or not. I have really started to think of things differently and although I could really relate to the good guy in the movie getting looked over and treated poorly. All that stuff has happened to me in my love life, but that is all in the past now. I cannot change the past anymore than you can. I just keep moving forward and try to put myself in better situations and all will come in due time. Which leads me right into the song for this week.
Oh Wilson Phillips where have you been all these years. I know this group, not because I chose to listen to them back in the day, but rather it was my sister who blared music in the morning as we got ready for school. Wilson Phillips was some of that music that she played a lot. I also have a few years of country music that is stuck in my head still somewhere because of this.
When Wilson Phillips was on steady rotation on Z100 my sister was all about it and because of that this album will always be stuck in my head. This song was in Bridesmaids towards the end of the movie and a full version was played again during the credits. Hearing it again after all these years it brought up many memories, but what is more important is it has much relevance to what I have been talking about.
Lets go to the lyrics and see:
"Hold On"
I know this pain
Why do lock yourself up in these chains?
No one can change your life except for you
(Yes, No one can change this except for you.)
Don't ever let anyone step all over you
(Nobody deserves to be suppressed. Ever.)
Just open your heart and your mind
(Always.)
Is it really fair to feel this way inside?
[Chorus:]
Some day somebody's gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then baby are you going to let them
Hold you down and make you cry
Don't you know?
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on for one more day
Things'll go your way
Hold on for one more day
(The only thing that is guaranteed in life is that change is inevitable.)
You could sustain
Or are you comfortable with the pain?
You've got no one to blame for your unhappiness
You got yourself into your own mess
(It’s true. Your happiness is controlled by no one but yourself.)
Lettin' your worries pass you by
Don't you think it's worth your time
To change your mind?
(Is it time to make a change and think of life differently?)
[Chorus]
I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day and
Break free the chains
Yeah I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day and you
Break free, break from the chains
(Break free from the chains that were never there in the first place.)
Some day somebody's gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then baby are you going to let them
Hold you down and make you cry
Don't you know?
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day yeah
If you hold on
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day,
If you hold on
Can you hold on
Hold on baby
Won't you tell me now
Hold on for one more day 'Cause
It's gonna go your way
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can't you change it this time
Make up your mind
Hold on
Hold on
Baby hold on
(Till I find something that is a better fit for me then I will hold on for one more day...)
Because if being single means I’m happy and being the best version of myself then single it will be for the rest of my life. I plan on maintaining my happiness and my myself, and I will not compromise myself to follow the norm.
I know I know Derrick always has to dig deeper and find something to build off of. He can’t just enjoy a comedy for being a comedy. This is just how I see life through my lens and I hope you take something away with you. It’s great movie if you haven’t seen it already you should.
As always I bring this to you with so much love and pure D-lite. = )
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